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Sometimes the only way to have a truly happy marriage is to courageously feel and uncomfortably examine unhappiness, through a brain-based conversation.

Credit: Brian Rea, for the NY Times Modern Love column

It felt worse than losing my identity.


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[This article is written by my 5th-grader son, as part of the series on self-development, a gig offered to him by his coaching mom.]


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As adults, most of the times, we only seriously question about our natural talents when we are forced to make a career change. How would a child think about this topic? Here is my 11-year-old son’s view. Ideally, he would have shadowed his mom’s work the core part of which is to help people to uncover their unique gifts, but looks like he was able to nail this weekly writing assignment for Happiness Infinity LLC.


This article was written by my 11-year-old son who, after a few months of “upward” struggle, has been quite successful in overwriting the habit of getting hooked onto online games with one of focusing on school work.

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In this article, I will be showing you 2 tips and tricks to create a useful habit that work all the times, without you having to read so many books.


And how we can use this insight to improve parenting, leading a team, leading ourselves, and make a better world.

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So you’ve probably seen a sea of #blacklivesmatter and a pond of, hopefully, #stopasianhate. Public responses to anti-Black racism seem to outweigh those to anti-Asian racism; it gained way more attention. In fact, when I tried to attach the hashtags for this article on Medium, the former showed 53k and the later showed 5. There’re many reasons why it’s so, among them are that Black Lives Matter has been the results of centuries of organizing and that Asian culturally tend to be less vocal. But scientifically speaking, there’s a much bigger contributing reason that has nothing to do with history…


Snapshot of my little writer while working on this article on one Saturday afternoon.

[This is article is written by my 11-year-old son. After all, game playing during a long virtual school period is not that bad. He got all these ideas from playing various games and watching YouTube videos.]


My daughter: “Mom, when I grow up, I want to be like you. You help people to be happy.”

As my family and I had breakfast together over one recent weekend, at one point in our conversations, I asked my 11-year-old son, mentioning the two characters in our family’s favorite television series, The Little House, which we’d been watching again for the past few months as part of our weekend rituals, “So who do you think I am like more, Mary or Laura?” Contrary to the answer I longed for, which was “Laura”, he said, “None of them, mom. You are like yourself.” I continued, “Then how am I like?” …


So we are often told, “Don’t sweat over small things.” However, neuroscience would say otherwise. We just actually need to sweat over small things, in a good way, as these small things would actually accumulate to create big things which make our lives blossom altogether or couldn’t be helped by even a great family therapist.

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These few weekends, we had a new ritual of visiting our new home in upstate New York as we would only officially move in till June after the kids finished their school. Like many other times, my husband was always ready first, then our son…


Just when the world rejoiced with the news about the vaccine, the silently growing balloon in me burst: I thought I was a total failure as a working mom, and I wanted to quit.

“Maybe I have to stop working,” I thought, tears quietly trickling down my cheeks while I was disinfecting bags of produce delivered by Whole Foods at my door an hour earlier, chopping red onions and the other ingredients for my husband’s and my plant-based meal — he decided to switch to this diet in the middle of the pandemic, and washing spinach and stirring up the chicken cooking on the stove for the kids’ meal.


Autumn in Vermont in painting & Autumn in New York in writing

Seven months had never felt longer in Anne’s life. Since the pandemic said its hello to the city in the boldest possible way, just like many other families, hers had been taking refuge in their own apartment. With her husband working from home and the kids floating with virtual schools, the flow of being adjusted itself in a new dimension. Groceries delivered in the lobby twice a week. Lunch and dinner together every day. Board games and Little House once every few nights. Zoom calls, emails, and content creation remained the constant in her world. …

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